Anyone suffering from any mental health issue will know that not every day is going to be your day. There will be some days where you just can’t get out of bed, you just can’t go to work or school. You just can’t. And this is okay. This is fine. This is life.We all want to be the best be can possibly be. I know that in my own life, I want to wake up everyday and aim to make it a good one. I spent so long living in a negative bubble, not wanting to wake up at all some mornings, that I just want to live life and experience it. By experience I don’t mean doing big, extravagant things, I simply mean being happy and allowing myself to enjoy life.
A while ago, I was seeing a counsellor who really changed my way of thinking. He told me that my mind automatically goes to negative places and I automatically think negative things about myself and my life. This is true, and I still do it today. However, he taught me that instead of just accepting that these negative thoughts and feelings are true and right, I should find some evidence to back them up. No evidence = not letting it consume me and moving on. Proving the negative feelings wrong or irrational is a good way to move past them.
I still have my bad days. I think anyone who is recovering from mental illness has bad days. They’re a part of who we are and a part of the recovery process. I find that bad mental health days are just that: bad days. They don’t mean that you’ve failed and you’re right back to the beginning. You’ve just hit a snag in the road. They do not define you, nor should you feel bad for having them.
At the beginning of my journey to recovery, I approached bad mental health days with denial. I refused to accept that I was having a bad day. I thought that if I admitted that I was having a bad day, I would be right back on the therapist sofa… right back to the beginning. So, how did I deal with them? I carried on. I forced myself to go about my day, pretending that everything was perfectly fine. For some people, this is a good coping method. For me, it was mentally exhausting.
If this is how you get through your bad days, then you do it. Do what is right and comfortable for you. I was doing this partially because I didn’t want to admit to myself that I had taken a small step backwards, and partially because I was scared that my family would think that I was being dramatic and looking for attention. It wasn’t what I wanted though.
So I found a way of spending my bad days in a way that will allow me to get up the next morning and move on. Remember, you don’t have to fight your bad days, you can simply let them run their course.
Here’s what I like to do when my mental health isn’t on its game:
- Have a bath
- Do my makeup
- Listen to music
- Watch YouTube videos all. day. long
- Get someone to chill with you- you don’t have to face it alone
- Tea, tea, tea!
- Candles and a dim light (I hate nothing more than sitting it a bright room when I want to curl up into a ball and let the world pass me by
- Or simply lay in bed allllll day.
These do not make the bad days go away, and I’m not claiming that they do, but these are just little things I find that help me move past a bad day and continue on the road to recovery. Everyone is different and these won’t help everyone, but you can give them a go and if it’s not for you, that’s okay.
What do you do when you’re having a bad mental health day?
Until next time…