Today is going to be a different kind of post as I want to just ramble and speak my mind about something that has been bothering me for quite some time. Please don’t feel that this is personally victimising anyone, I have absolutely no intention in hurting anyone’s feelings so if you are offended by this post, please let me know!A few weeks ago I was sitting in school chatting to my friends about this, that and the other, when I heard someone say “I’m actually only friends with them because they make me look better.” Upon turning around to check who it was, I discovered that it was a really cocky boy in my year.
Now, you may be thinking “Ciara, it’s not nice to call people names” and I agree 100%. However, this boy really is cocky. He walks with a strut, as if he is better than others around him, and has no problem putting others down to make himself look good.
So naturally, I wasn’t surprised to see that he was the person who made that remark. I was disappointed, more than anything- perhaps angry too. His friend group is a lovely bunch of people. They are kind and so smart and funny as hell. I’ll admit that they aren’t the most ‘visually appealing’ group of young fellas, but looks are not everything. They have the most amazing personalities, so for him to say that the only reason he associates with them is to make himself look better… it made my blood boil.
I am in love with confidence. Although I don’t have a lot of self-confidence, I love seeing and associating with people who do, because confidence is contagious. When I surround myself with people who radiate positivity, I automatically feel more positive.
I don’t like people who are cocky, and one becomes cocky when they are so confident, it hurts other people… like this boy in my year. He is trying so hard to exert his confidence, that he is hurting his ‘friends’ feelings in the process.
Being confident doesn’t mean you have to make other people feel bad about themselves, because that ultimately won’t make you feel better. Being confident is about loving yourself and those around you, so they can feel confident too.
I’m sorry if this post wasn’t to your liking but this was something that has been playing on my mind for a while, and this felt like a good place to let it out… because this is where I feel confident.
Is there anything you do to boost your confidence? Do you find confidence beautiful like me?
Until next time…